Problems never run out as long as we live. We are never too comfortable with our lives. Because of this, we develop patience and resilience, which is good to some extent. Because our tolerance keeps getting bigger, the small bad things that happen to us keeps getting more tolerable and irrelevant. A major problem coming by is more often easier to solve (unless it’s life-threatening, of course). It’s easier to ask for a major help only once, and solving that one major problem with one major solution, rather than never asking for help and just keeping everything, then randomly being frustrated.
Children who have been raised in families where they need to be silent as long as they don’t contribute would develop a habit of keeping things to themselves. Some adults are self-sufficient, too helpful, or even selfish, not because they are want to be outstandingly strong, but because repressing their stresses is already a habit. Everything has a limitation. Sometimes, these pent-up stresses would reach danger level, even if they were individually and collectively unfelt. Then, one not-so-heavy stressor comes and unexpectedly makes the person burst out anger, and people around them would wonder why.
There are those small problems which die quickly by a natural death, due to their nature, or if they are solved by other people, or they are actually not important to our future. And then there are those small problems which also inflict small damage. No matter how small, damage is still damage. Even if they clot and heal themselves, when unattended, they leave a scar. It’s not an irony that they are small stressors but they produce big burdens. It’s just that, they leave small, frequent damages that remain unrepaired, and it shifts our way of thinking that “this needs fixing” to “this is just normal”.
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